Humans are prone to make mistakes. Sometimes we learn from our good experiences, and sometime we learn from our bad experiences. Sometimes it takes repeat offences before we learn. According to the Little Rascals show, there are some people who ,” Will never learn.” Yes, I watched those black and white tv shows.
Common advice for young and old drivers sounds like,”Don’t drive too fast, you will get a speeding ticket.”
During the winter season the advice may sound like, “Don’t touch metal objects with your tongue or it will get stuck.” There are also the lovely myths that we may have been told such as,” If you swallow orange seeds or watermelon seeds, they will grow in your stomach and you will explode.”
I had the pleasure of teaching students who liked to discover life their way. Most of them learned from their experiences, while some of them just lived life on the edge.
Lord of the Ring.
Lord of the Ring was a 6 year old in grade one who was given a great deal of support to help him avoid hitting other students. I personally believe that he was trying to make friends, but because he was rough with other kids, they did not like to play with him. His parents were often at odds about what measures would best support him. Mom thought that he needed more time outs and dad wanted to be informed so that he could be disciplined at home. I was at odds with both of these, so I often talked to Lord of the Ring to see what was really upsetting him. One day Lord of the Ring was thrilled to show me a gift he got from his dad. It was a gold ring and he was excited because his dad let him wear it to school. He showed it to the class, the secretary and the principal. He was amazed by this gold ring and played with it for most of the morning. As the day progressed, I noticed that he was putting the ring in his mouth. I watched this a few times and then I said, “ Lord of the Ring, don’t put the ring in your mouth because you may choke on it.” He looked at me with his blue eyes, nodded his head and got back to work. During our show and tell circle, Lord of the Ring let every student in the class touch the ring. He shared how the ring had belonged to his grandfather, had been given to his dad and now it belonged to him. It was a nice time because everyone was sharing and communicating in a positive manner with a student who often experienced negative vibes from his peers. Shortly after this, the secretary called me on the P.A. “ Ms. Dancing Shoes can you please send Lord of the Ring down to the office?” He left to go to the office. Shortly after this time, the kids all went to the gym with the P.E. teacher and I went to do some work in the library. As I walked down the hall I saw Lord of the Ring standing outside of the office and I asked him why he was there. He said something about talking to the principal. I also noticed that he was putting the ring into his mouth. I reminded him, “ If you are not careful, you are going to choke on that ring, and your dad will be upset with you. Perhaps you should put it somewhere safe until you go home?” He said, “ NO! I promise I will not put it in my mouth again.” I walked down the hall and continued working while the students were in the gym. Eventually, I began to return to the classroom, only to see Lord of the Ring holding his throat because he was choking and his eyes were bulging out of his head.. I ran down the hall and the secretary came out the office. We began to help him, and then he very suddenly gulped to swallow the ring. As tears streamed down his face he smiled and said,” I’m okay now.” We were all relieved and a few minutes later were back in the classroom. The secretary told me that she would let the parents know about the incident and would get back to me. At the end of the day, Lord of the Ring put on his coat and backpack and lined up to go home. His mom was there and was relieved that he was okay. She did not appear to be upset with him. I told her that I had warned him about putting the ring in his mouth. I stopped myself from saying,” I told you so.” After all of the students were gone, I wrote about the incident in my daily journal and was thankful that we didn’t have to call 911.
Three days later, I was sitting at my desk before the school day started. I walked down to the staff room to get myself a cup of coffee and when I returned to my room, I noticed that Lord of the Ring and his parents were standing beside my desk. When I looked at my desk I noticed a shiny gold ring sitting on top of my binder. This was the same shiny gold ring that had been ingested. Miraculously it had come out and Lord of the Ring had begged his parents to bring the ring back to school. While this was happening I was thinking, what is my face saying right now. Is it a grimace because it seems yucky or disbelief. Is it the crazy laughing face or is it deadpan. I tried very hard to keep my disdain for the ring from them, but my head was yelling GROSS! Now some of you may say, “ Oh come on, you know that they cleaned it before they brought it to school.” My response to you is, “ You do not have this item sitting on your binder that you write on.” Yes, it was clean and yes, he wanted to show it to everyone. I considered how some of the parents might respond if they heard about the incident and because I didn’t want to spend hours on the phone, I said that I thought it would be better if he kept his “Precious” in his bag.
Lesson
What did I tell you in one of my earlier blogs? WASH YOUR HANDS.
Do not assume that every child is going to listen to your words of wisdom.
Do not assume that all parents have the same behavioural management beliefs. Ultimately, you can help the children in your class when you listen to their wants and needs, but sometimes they can not have everything the way they want… SAFETY FIRST!
Do not assume that you are going to handle every situation perfectly. That is okay. I did many things in my career that I would not repeat. BE a LIFE-LONG LEARNER.
All kidding aside. I wonder if Lord of the Ring is presently working in the jewelry industry. You never know. He would be approximately 30 years old now.
